I’m noticing another aspect of my approval-seeking habits. My inner Disapproval Dodger may even be more powerful than my Approval Junkie. Hard to admit.
I got started people pleasing early in life. About the same time I decided I needed their approval, I also figured out I REALLY wanted to avoid their disapproval. (What kid doesn’t?)
It’s a pretty outdated strategy when you’re a grown-up, but it still persists. For most of my life I haven’t even known what I want until I figure out what THEY want. And sometimes it’s still hard to break that habit.
When do you ignore your “authentic yes” to your inner direction to avoid displeasing someone else?
How do you know it would even displease them? Some juicy questions. What do you notice?