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Navigating the Sacred Spiral Path

I’m traveling with my friend Siri, she who is the little sister of Garmin and the daughter of Mapquest, the maker of all directions. Sometimes when I believe her, we go straight from Point A to Point B in the most efficient manner. And sometimes I end up making three left turns when I wanted to go right…or entering a freeway to go to another exit altogether, only to get off and find that I was where I wanted to go just before I got on the freeway in the first place.

All I’m saying is that sometimes her logic is a bit circular. Much like my own.

And I’m reminded of all the trips I made with my co-author and business partner, Jeanne. I’ve always considered myself directionally challenged, and…let’s just say Jeanne was in the same tribe. And in the olden days, before GPS, this was sometimes a significant challenge.

We’d fly to new cities. Drive to PR gigs and workshops. And even with our stash of maps and one of us serving as a designated navigator, we were often lost more than we were found.

Our favorite navigational method was to circumambulate around the location, eventually zeroing in on our goal.

We called this the Sacred Spiral Path.

I’ve noticed that this process is similar for almost everyone I know who wants to live a life that is more and more satisfying. We set our GPS or identify a destination. We begin. There’s a sense of freedom and possibility. An open road and hope.

And then something happens. There’s a natural fear or discomfort that comes when you’re doing something new. This is a part of the process, something to lean into. But as you go on, another feeling may show up in your body. It may feel like a general heaviness or a tightness in the belly or a felt sense of stuckness.

When we get closer to what we thought we wanted, sometimes there’s a feeling that it’s not right for us. Or we may notice that the landscape is off and the Universe is giving us new signals. These bodily directions are as important to navigation as the first excitement or joy.

This is a good time to remember that we’re not lost. We’re getting closer and closer to our essence.  Finding our unique way on the sacred spiral path.

 

What body signs tell you that you’re on the right path? What are your navigational signals that it’s time to recalibrate? How do you do that? Is your path straight, wiggly, circular or spiral? Or sometimes all of the above? Just notice….

 

 

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Wise in This Lifetime

Last week I made a lovely connection with a young woman by surprise. We were participating in an event where the leader requested my very least favorite group exercise: gazing in the eyes of a stranger.

I realized it would be far easier to drop my opinion and see what happened than to keep my story.  As it turned out …(drum roll)…there was nothing to hate about it. In fact, it was quite sweet. Quiet. Present. Love. This was the groupie thingee that  I’d been hating on for the last…oh…thirty years?

Fascinating.

After five minutes or so, we talked.

“You have had many lifetimes as a wise woman,” she offered, adding that she had a gift for seeing past lives.

I’m an agnostic on the subject of past lives, but I was honored by the compliment.

“Right now I’m just working on this one,” I responded with more than a touch of irony.

She seemed to want to be helpful. “You should develop the confidence to go for it. Let people see your wisdom.”

I noticed that being willing and confident to share wisdom is no longer a problem for me. I’m comfortable now in that identity, as long as I’m not pretending to know more than I do or to “step up” to an image of being a Wise Woman.

Once I take on that identity, I’m in trouble. I have to pretend wisdom when sometimes I’m not feeling it so much.

On the other hand, I sometimes experience deep gratitude…and grounding, by the wisdom of my female ancestors, those wise women who came before, from my personal family tree as well as the human tree of life.

All of us come from many lives of Wise Women. No problem there. Just such a rich pool of deep connection with all that was, all that is.

And then, there’s this life.  Where we (or I) are sometimes “off,” grouchy or irritable. Where I still sometimes fight with the reality right in front of me.

In the end, what’s worth remembering is that I AM still working on it. It this lifetime. And I’m glad.

 

What wisdom of the ancestors inspires you today? How do you find your way back to your Wise Person, in this life? Where are you challenged to be as wise as you know how to be? Turn it around: Where are you challenged to not be wise when you think you should be? 

 

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Slow-Mo Life in Mid-Mo

Last week I made a cross-country plane trek to visit my family in mid-Missouri. It’s nearly impossible for me to make the trip without leaping into high gear. From the details of preparation beforehand to shuffling bags from car to flight to shuttle, by the time I arrive at my mother’s  “gracious adult retirement center,” I leave skid marks.

And then I’m there. With my mother and about a hundred other folks in their eighties and nineties. At first it feels like I’m moving underwater, or I’ve become a character in a slow motion movie. My mind leaps and bucks at being so tethered. It seeks a job.

It turns out the major league baseball playoffs were just the thing: My hometown is right smack dab in between St. Louis, home of the Cardinals, and Kansas City, home of the Royals. Both had made it to the very last round. Go Cardinals! I heard as I arrived to a “beer,” peanuts and baseball hats party.

Wait. Not looking so good for the Cardinals. Now Go Royals! The slow pace of baseball was perfect for me and my new peer group.

Once I began to adjust, I kinda liked the slow-mo way of being. A lot. Yes, there was a long line for the elevator, and we had to take it in batches, since the walkers took up a fair amount of space. And then there was the confusion when I assumed that the maroon walker was my mother’s. (This was before I noticed the other twenty or so like it. How was I to know that one with the curly fuscia ribbon wasn’t hers?)

But. Once my mind had a good dose of Slow Mo, things just got better and better.

On our Sunday drive, we ended up at a nature sanctuary near the river.  The trees on the bluff were in full regalia. That’s what I thought we’d taken our Sunday drive to see. But then, in the spirit of Slow Mo, we stopped the car. Rolled down the window.  Our nostalgic chatter died away. In its place, the caws and shrieks and lilting of hundreds of birds. Egrets on the right. Dozens of water birds on the swamp. A baby eagle swooped toward some geese. We moved the car a mile. Stopped again. Quiet. Birdsounds. Again and again. For two or three hours, we watched birds ride the dusk into the wetlands. As the skies turned purple and mauve, about a thousand red-wing blackbirds swooped over the car to their evening gathering spot.

“This is like I hope heaven is,” my mother said.

“I never did this when I could drive,” she added. “I usually just went to the mall.”

I wanted to slow the motion down even further, to stop the clock, to stay there in the heaven of the true Heartland with my beloved mother.

But I had to pick something up at the mall for my flight back the next day.

The funny thing is, part of me didn’t leave. Any time I want, there it is, that Slow Mo life. And once again it’s all about the remembering.

 

Check your mind’s file for slow-mo moments that have taken you to your core of peace. Create a mental slide show of those images. Which ones reliably take you back to that remembering? Update the file and keep it handy.

The Last Blast of Summer (or of Anything)

It’s October. Last week I built fires in the woodstove to take the nip out of the early mornings. And then the last few days, here it is. Indian Summer. Temperatures in the eighties, hawks soaring above in the balmy breeze. The sun offers its light on a slant, making it feel even more stunning and precious.

And how very precious it is, this Last Blast of Summer. Called by different names in as many cultures, humans have long celebrated this brief but intense return of the warmth of the growing season. For me this means incorporating the season’s basil in some ratatouille and savoring the last tomatoes as I remember Greece in a salad. These are the simplest ways to honor the season.

I’m also making use of the nurturing strength and the warmth that is here, now. At this time of life, I have daily proof that the golden light will not stay. I experience the creaking of my own body and watch my friends transformed by life-threatening illness. And what I see is that there’s something about this rare light of autumn that makes being alive even more precious.

This has given me the inspiration to let some of that light shine on the shadows (and the shallows) of my own heart. I’ve asked sources seen and unseen to show me those places I’d usually like to ignore, to deny, or to overlook. An unkind thought, a crappy little island of my life where I still haven’t quite made peace. The things that I look past in the busy-ness of summer so that I can live in the light of the abundance that that season brings.

Who knows? This may be the Last Blast of those old, self-defeating patterns I could really live better without. The crabbiness and lack of clarity with my spouse. The sneaky habit of eating what my mind thinks it needs rather than listening to my body.

From deep curiosity and presence, it’s good to truly see each of those things. Because if they’re on their way out, I sure wouldn’t want to miss that. Or the peace that follows.

Find a moment or two this week to notice the unique light or the movement of the clouds. Is there a way to experience that “en-light-enment” in your life? To allow that moment of presence to show what would like to leave. What would you like to embrace as if it’s a dear friend who’s about to depart? An experiment. What do you notice?

 

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